# 22 Discovering some perceptions

Hello everyone,

From now on I want to write only in English, to share my thoughts to the world wide. I hope it's ok with all of you that follow my posts. Sorry for any inconvenient and I hope you'll take from Luda's Coaching Sheet as least the same value about self improvement and coaching as before.

Second of all, I will share with you a great tool of discovering a lot more about yourself through the eyes of your friends, colleagues, family and....yourself!

I have found out that I know myself less than I expected...after taking this Johari Window.


Am I : self-conscious, proud, adaptable, shy, ingenious ?!? True! that is the way that the other persons see me. It is a fair view or not?! Are they conscious about all I am or are those only some perspectives?

I want to only make a point here and not just to talk about me! It is not about how the people perceived me at a moment of my life or all the time, it is a about how I see myself in the other's eyes..it is about how I want to behave in certain circumstances and how am I perceived; the way I see myself among others. My status is crucial in my mind, the way I see myself comparing to the others.

Probably the best lesson I lived in my life was to compare myself only with myself, and to be in competition with myself.. It is the best path to take ;).

So, acknowledging and evaluating how the people around me are looking at me leads me to the idea that I have different faces at different times.This is our common feature when we talk about being ourselves and being authentic.

What about authenticity? What is stopping me to be me all the time? not to seem another person...

What is stopping you to be yourself? When are you differently as the authentic you?

I made some discoveries with myself.. Take the test and observe yourself relating to the people around you. When are you different? How? What is the reason for being less yourself?


Improve yourself by thinking at yourself a little more :)


Below the 4 areas window, there are the percentages and another window containing: Interactive Johari Window.You sign in and share the link with 6 or 10 of your friends, peers, relatives, working colleagues. The outcome is that you have picked 5 ways of how you see yourself and you find out from the people that know you how they see you (they pick 5 adjectives). The outcome is that you find some new perspectives about yourself...

Arena (known to self and others) energetic, mature, observant	Blind Spot (known only to others) able, adaptable, bold, caring, cheerful, clever, confident, dependable, extroverted, friendly, happy, independent, ingenious, intelligent, kind, logical, loving, modest, organised, proud, self-assertive, self-conscious, shy, silly, spontaneous, sympathetic, tense, trustworthy, warm, wise, witty
Façade (known only to self) helpful, powerful, searching	Unknown (known to nobody) accepting, brave, calm, complex, dignified, giving, idealistic, introverted, knowledgeable, nervous, patient, quiet, reflective, relaxed, religious, responsive, sensible, sentimental

All Percentages

able (8%) accepting (0%) adaptable (8%) bold (8%) brave (0%) calm (0%) caring (8%) cheerful (25%) clever (16%) complex (0%) confident (16%) dependable (8%) dignified (0%) energetic (50%) extroverted (16%) friendly (33%) giving (0%) happy (8%) helpful (0%) idealistic (0%) independent (25%) ingenious (8%) intelligent (50%) introverted (0%) kind (8%) knowledgeable (0%) logical (25%) loving (33%) mature (8%) modest (8%) nervous (0%) observant (8%) organised (16%) patient (0%) powerful (0%) proud (8%) quiet (0%) reflective (0%) relaxed (0%) religious (0%) responsive (0%) searching (0%) self-assertive (16%) self-conscious (25%) sensible (0%) sentimental (0%) shy (8%) silly (8%) spontaneous (16%) sympathetic (16%) tense (8%) trustworthy (16%) warm (25%) wise (8%) witty (16%)

Created by the Interactive Johari Window on 15.3.2009, using data from 12 respondents.
You can make your own Johari Window, or view LudmilaMarin's full data.